How to Build a Strong Relationship With Your Nanny
Creating Connection, Trust, and Teamwork at Home
This blog is part of the Arise Visibility Collective, a community-driven initiative powered by Megan Metzger Consulting to boost the reach and visibility of nanny agency owners across the U.S. and beyond.
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We’re excited to feature a guest post from one of our wonderful community members, Christine Wisdom of Olive You Nanny Milwaukee. In this thoughtful article, Christine shares practical, heartfelt guidance on a topic every family can benefit from: how to build a strong, lasting relationship with your nanny.
From communication and appreciation to handling conflict with care, Christine offers clear, actionable tips that help foster trust, connection, and true partnership in the home.
Be sure to explore more of Christine’s insights over at her blog: here
Hiring a nanny is more than just finding someone to care for your children—it’s about inviting someone into your home and your family’s daily rhythm. When parents and nannies form a strong, respectful relationship, everyone wins, especially the kids.
Here are a few meaningful ways to build a strong and lasting relationship with your nanny:
1. Start with Clear Communication
From day one, set the tone for open, honest communication. Outline your expectations, routines, and parenting philosophies—and invite your nanny to share theirs too. Establish regular check-ins to discuss what’s working, what could improve, and how the children are doing. A shared Google Doc, a handy app, or a weekly sit-down can go a long way in preventing misunderstandings and keeping everyone aligned.
2. Respect the Role
Your nanny is a professional caregiver, and treating the role with the same respect as any career will build mutual appreciation. Honor scheduled hours, offer breaks if you can, and avoid last-minute changes whenever possible. Respecting boundaries creates trust, and trust builds loyalty.
3. Welcome Them into the Family Culture
While your nanny isn’t expected to become a family member, helping them feel welcome and included fosters a stronger connection. You can invite them to your child’s birthday party or share family traditions that your nanny can take part in during work hours. A simple “we’re so grateful you’re with us” goes a long way.
4. Appreciate the Small Things
Caregiving is often invisible work, but it’s deeply impactful. Take time to acknowledge the small things your nanny does that make your life easier: keeping the playroom organized, preparing meals your child loves, or handling the tough tantrum with patience and grace. A thank-you note or kind words of appreciation can mean the world.
5. Support Their Growth
Encourage your nanny’s professional development by offering resources or paid time off to attend training, like International Nanny Training Day, Nannypalooza or something as simple as CPR recertification. Investing in their growth not only benefits your family, but it also shows that you value their career.
6. Handle Conflict with Care
No relationship is perfect. If concerns arise, address them respectfully and privately. Approach feedback with empathy, focusing on collaboration rather than criticism. Likewise, invite your nanny to share their perspective, as it might open up a productive and insightful conversation.
7. Celebrate Milestones Together
Your nanny is there for many of your child’s firsts—first words, first steps, new skills. Celebrate those moments together! Whether it’s a quick photo, a shared laugh, or a special treat, acknowledging these milestones deepens the sense of shared joy and teamwork.
Final Thoughts:
At Olive You Nanny Milwaukee, we believe the best nanny-family relationships are built on mutual respect, consistent communication, and everyone being on the same team for the child. When you treat your nanny not just as an employee, but as a trusted partner in your parenting journey, you’ll create a strong, stable foundation for your entire family.
